It is universally agreed that Thai women are among the most beautiful and desirable in the world. Thus, it should come as no surprise that Western men are eager to meet and date Thai women.
Unfortunately, many men from the U.S. and Europe think they can just ignore Thai culture and act the same way on a date with a Thai woman as they would act with a Western woman. That is a huge mistake.
Be Aware of Cultural Differences
Before listing the 10 tips for dating a Thai woman, it’s a good idea to speak a bit about the general cultural differences between the West and Thailand.
Thai people tend to be more socially conservative than Westerners, and because the nation is still in the “developing” economic stage, many Thais don’t have a much disposable income as Americans, Europeans and non-Thais.
Also, Thai culture emphasizes etiquette and non-verbal communication much more than Western cultures do. A look, a smile, a gesture or another form of non-verbal communication can mean a lot to a Thai person, and sometimes is more important than the actual words spoken between two people.
Getting a general idea of how Thai society works, the history of the nation, and the background of Thai social customs is necessary for any Western man who wishes to date Thai women successfully.
In this case, “success” is defined by building a serious relationship,or even marrying a beautiful Thai bride, which could eventually lead to marriage if that’s what your goal is.
For short-term relationships that are more focused on sex and physical interaction, Western men can always spend time in Thai bars in the bigger cities.
But for those who seek something more with a Thai woman, it’s smart to do a little bit of homework and follow the “10 tips for dating a Thai woman,” listed below.
1. Take Time to Plan the Date
Thai women will appreciate the fact that you have planned the date, rather than just going to a bar or informal restaurant by default. Taking time to think about what the particular woman wants is a key point to this tip.
If she is a formal type of person, then a fine restaurant might be a good choice for a first date. If she especially enjoys the outdoors, then perhaps a walk in the park and a small snack from a street vendor afterward would be the ideal date for such a woman.
Thai ladies respect a man who puts some planning and thinking into each date.
2. Don’t Go Dutch
It might sound harsh, especially to modernized American and European men who often expect women to share costs on a date, but Thai women come from a culture where the people make much less income than Westerners, and where men are expected to pay for expenses during courtship.
In some ways, the rules in this respect are similar to what Western culture was like before the 1960s. In any case, remember to be ready to pay for dates when you are courting a Thai woman.
3. No PDAs (public displays of affection)
While kissing, hugging and putting arms around each other are considered typical behavior in the West, it is not so in Thailand. With Thai women, remember that public displays of affection are considered quite rude and are to be avoided.
Especially on first and second dates, try to not get physical with the woman in public view. Perhaps a light kiss at the end of the second or third date is okay if you are in a private place, but never in a public place.
4. Learn about your date
Do what you can, within reason, to learn your prospective date’s likes and dislikes before the first date. She will appreciate your effort in this regard for sure.
For example, try to learn through phone conversations or online chatting what type of films she likes, whether she like sporting events, how she likes to spend her time, and the various kinds of food she prefers to eat. The more you can learn about her, the better.
5. Use the Proper Greeting
Remember to use the traditional Thai greeting instead of a handshake or a hug. Bending slightly at the waist, bring your palms together just underneath your chin, and say hello.
6. Be Punctual
Thai women put a lot of importance on punctuality, so be sure to arrive at the agreed upon meeting place at or slightly before the time you said you would. Especially on a first date, punctuality shows that you have made an effort to do as you say. This is of great importance in Thai dating culture.
Women in Thailand are attracted to men who are reliable and courteous.
7. Understand Thai Culture
Because there are a great many differences between Western and Thai culture, do your best to spend time studying Thai culture before going on a date with a Thai woman.
For example, in Thailand (and in many other Asian cultures) it is considered very rude to gesture or point with your feet or head. It’s also rude to touch a person’s head or hair, especially in public.
8. Understand Thai Dating Culture
In Thai dating culture, love comes before marriage, and marriage comes before sex. At least that’s the ideal situation. You might find out that sex can come before marriage, but Thai women expect love to be the first step no matter what.
9. Demonstrate Self-discipline
If you are able to show self-discipline, especially with regard to your physical urges, a Thai woman will be much more likely to accept an offer for a second date.
Avoid pushing the woman to hold hands or be affectionate. Take things slowly and you will eventually develop a lasting relationship with a Thai woman.
10. Maintain a High Level of Personal Hygiene
More than in most other cultures, personal cleanliness is of importance to Thai women. Look your best, especially on a first date. Arrive on time, clean-shaven, and freshly showered in clean clothing. Attention to personal hygiene will make a good impression on a Thai woman.
The Big Picture
Adhering to the above advice will go a long way toward making your first attempts at dating a Thai woman successful. While it might be impossible to remember all the tips and follow each one to the letter, try your best to keep them all in mind.
The Thai woman you go out with will definitely notice that you are trying to understand and abide by her cultural guidelines. For that effort alone, she will appreciate you and will be more willing to accept an invitation for a second, third, or fourth date.
And from there, the relationship can go wherever the two of you decide to take it.