If you spend any time at all online, then the word ‘viral’ has found a niche. Anything that takes off in a short period and is super popular is considered viral.
It’s not a term we would use with International Dating. Why? Because this form of meeting women from other countries has been around for a long time now. Go back in time to just 10 years ago and international dating sites and connecting romantically on the internet were not looked upon very favourably.
Fast forward to today and it is now a very acceptable form of meeting women from other countries and, in fact, has blossomed and become even more popular. Sure there are scammers on some of the sites, people who are not who they say they are and those chasing a sucker’s wallet.
But to be honest, that happens on more than dating sites. It also happens on dating sites in your own country, assuming you are a westerner.
The first and foremost misconception to look at is the statement that “Only Losers Look for a partner online”. Whoa! Are you kidding? Check out some personalities of people you meet at work or are your friends.
- He’s a shy, retiring type.
- He’s a geek.
- He’s too busy working in his business to even go out at night.
Some guys are just different. Have you been out with your good mate to a club and he just wants to stand at the bar, have a few drinks and watch the girls dance? Meanwhile, you are a wild, party animal and will definitely be taking home later on that hot number who’s giving you the eye.
Okay, it happens, right? Transfer that same personality to the internet. Your friend can connect with anybody he likes on a dating site without any peer pressure about whether he’s successful or not.
What about the friend who is always working? Hasn’t got a girlfriend. Never goes out. Always working late and on weekends. How the heck does he meet a girl?
Online, of course.
“Isn’t Online Dating a Bit Impersonal?”
It’s certainly a little different but what’s the difference between looking for someone online and having a Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest account? Just about all your communication, these days is online, electronic.
You can get to know somebody online in a safe, unhurried environment. And don’t be surprised at how strongly you might feel about your online friend as the relationship grows. You can show your emotions towards somebody in writing where if it was in person you might be a bit tongue-tied and unable to express yourself.
You can exchange quirky, romantic, funny, interesting photos and news clips. It’s probably a better way to get to know each other than in a smoke filled room with music blasting you at 120dB!
“Not Everybody Tells the Truth Online.”
That may be so but then again, lots of people lie to your face too. There are many strange people in the world and you can meet them online as often as you can meet them personally.
The thing about developing a relationship online is that you have the time to learn about who the other person really is. If you’re the type that likes to play and create a false persona, don’t be surprised to find a person online who might like to play the same game. Life’s like that.
“Look out! She Just Wants Your Money.”
This is the hardest misconception to overcome. If you’re online to a woman in a 3rd World Country such as the Philippines, Vietnam or Thailand, the fact is that the people there are poorer than their Western counterparts. If you are in a relationship online, you will know very quickly whether money is the driving force behind her ‘love’ for you.
Imagine that situation at home. If you meet a gold digger in a bar in your home country, what do you think that’s going to cost you before you wake up? $100? $200? $5000? If you end up with her for a long time, it could cost you half of everything you own.
If you look at the profiles of the women that have posted their information online, they are looking for fidelity, love, a long term relationship and the desire to start a family. Yes, the ability to support a family will be necessary but at the outset, the amount of money you have is not the most important aspect.
“OMG! She’s Too Young For You.”
Apart from China, age really has no bearing on the relationship. Women from South America, Eastern Europe, and SE Asia don’t care about your age. They are looking for husbands with whom they can have children and live together in a better lifestyle than they currently have on offer in their own country.
We live in a technology-driven world and the misconceptions surrounding online dating are just that, not true. It’s a fact that almost every single person has tried online dating. You have to work just as hard to develop and nurture a relationship online as you would need to do physically.
However, there is an atmosphere of safety and intimacy by writing that can make chatting to somebody online a far more pleasant experience. Its popularity belies the myths surrounding it and until you try it yourself, you should reserve your judgement. You just might be wrong!